Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Physical results and the effects of weight loss on marriage

I had my physical last Thursday and did the blood work Friday morning, after a 12 hour fast. The results? Everything is perfectly normal. After consulting with my weight loss board, I adjusted my calorie range and am no longer eating my workout calories. Hopefully that will fix the non-weight loss issue.

This showed up on my Facebook newsfeed. I've noticed an epidemic of divorces on my board and was beginning to wonder what the connection is between weight loss and relationships falling apart. A discussion with a friend brought out a great analogy: the person who is losing weight is shifting her priorities. If her spouse's priorities don't shift too, eventually they diverge, hitting a fork in the road. This doesn't happen in all relationships, but seems to happen in a lot of them. I don't think it's necessary for both spouses to be working on losing weight, but the spouse needs to be supportive, both spouses need to communicate, and they need to maintain their connection in other areas. I wish my husband was working out too, but it's not a priority to him right now. He is incredibly supportive though, we talk about everything, and we still spend time together doing other things. This trend is something to be aware for sure. How are you safeguarding your marriage?

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Day 37 and 179.8!

Today I saw a number I have been wishing for since the end of April. I just really wanted to get below 180. Today I did it! Weird thing, I'm not excited. I feel more like a cross between "well, it's about time" and disbelief because it's taken a ridiculously long time to get here. A good 3.5 months. To lose 10 lbs. For real. I'm glad I have my physical on Thursday and I'm so hoping for answers and a simple solution. Like it's my thyroid levels and taking this pill for 2 weeks will fix it. That'd be awesome.

On the plus side, I'm starting to feel thinner. Normally I've actually been thinner for at least a few weeks before my head catches up and I realize I actually AM thinner. This time it's harder for me to know where I'm at. My measurements haven't really changed. I am much more solid but there's still a layer of fat covering all my muscles. I'm not down a size yet. The scale is only slighter lower. I know the person I see in the mirror and even in pictures is a distortion. I see my flaws. I have a hard time seeing changes until they're big changes. My mom and my husband can tell a change. But they're also the people I vent to about not seeing changes and the people I tend to write off most easily because of course they see the best in me. Make sense? I value their opinions but they're most likely to notice the smallest change. I tend to put more stock in it when someone who doesn't have an interest in keeping me happy or pays all that much attention to me notices a change. Messed up, huh? I suppose it would be less biased...Anyhow, Steve's sister and mom both seemed surprised yesterday when I said I haven't really lost much weight or many inches. I take that as a sign that my body is changing.

Oh, and apparently my cardio conditioning is working so well that I'm burning fewer calories, lol. Cruel irony of getting into shape, although I thought I'd be a good 20 lbs lighter before that really happened. Ah well. I can just push myself harder through my workouts now. Here's hoping the doc has answers!

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Day 25

Yup, day 25 of TurboFire. I can feel that I'm in better shape and I recover quicker. The workouts are starting to get a bit more fun as I recover energy quicker and learn the choreography better. I am much more solid. The annoying part? The scale still hasn't budged. While my body composition seems to have changed (I wish I had calipers to measure my body fat!), I haven't really lost inches yet, at least not in the spots I've been measuring. I'm trying to keep the faith that if I stick with this, the pounds and inches WILL come off. But I have to admit it's getting a bit frustrating that 3.5 months in, I'm only down 8 lbs. I have a feeling the weight will start coming off soon. But I did schedule a physical in two weeks just in case something doesn't change. Maybe something is off?

Something that has been on my mind a lot lately is leading by example. The most obvious example is my kids. Right now they think working out and being strong is the coolest thing. Yay! I want to be fit and a healthy size and eat healthy foods and enjoy treats *in moderation* to teach them those things. I can tell them all I want, but what will stick with them is what I DO. I'm hoping my example spreads farther. I want my husband to be active and healthy. He's been honest with me and said exercise isn't a high priority right now. But I do know that when I'm fit and eating right, we go for more walks as a family and eat healthier. So even if it's not full-blown, my eating habits and exercise are beginning to impact him.

Now, I have to share a pet peeve of mine. After I lost the weight after Mia was born, SO many people wrote it off as good genes or because I was young. Those things do help. But it came down to determination, will-power, and consistency. I wanted to lose weight. So I cut calories. I turned down treats or had a smaller amount. I drank gallons of water. I worked out 5 days a week, every week. I changed my habits. I stuck with it, even on the weekends and over the holidays. It drove me nuts that everyone wrote it off as luck. No, people, it was hard work. Months of it. Another thing I've noticed is very few people are interested in the changes I'm making along the way. But once the weight is gone? Then they want to know my "secret." There is no secret, there is no silver bullet. And once they hear it wasn't some magic thing that made me instantly lose weight without any willpower or exercise, they're not interested. Sigh. I want to change that. I want to help people realize it does take hard work, but they CAN do it. And I can help them. Problem is figuring out how to get from dreaming this to making it a reality.

And I have a follower! Yay! Hi Amy! :) Love my MLW ladies! They are my cheering section, listening ears, and sympathizers. I just wish I knew more of them in real life. Off to feed the baby and then work out!